H said to me a couple of weeks ago that we should go out for Thanksgiving this year because there's always way too much food for just us and the cleanup on is monumental. I thought that would be great. Last night he says "Well I still haven't made reservations. Maybe we'll just stay home and get a small breast because I don't want to spend the money". Okay fine, once again you tell me something, get my hopes up, and it doesn't happen. Then he just emailed me and said "Just ordered the turkey 11-12 lbs.(not a "small breast") and I invited John (his coworker) and his daughter (18 year-old somewhat mentally challenged) over for Thanksgiving as well". These are the same two he had come over for the 4th of July without discussing with me first and it was awkward. I REALLY hate that! I have nothing to say to either of them, nothing in common, it's kind of uncomfortable because I don't really want to be alone with either one of them, but he continually invites people over without talking to me first. Oh and then about 5 minutes after he sent me that email he emails me "Yeah, I know not my first choice but he's a good guy and it's Thanksgiving". So WHY did you invite them at all and then tell me "not my first choice"? And you seem to be his only buddy, but H comes home and complains about the guy half the time anyways and doesn't go out of his way to spend time with him.

I would NEVER invite someone over without discussing it with him first. I get it, it's Thanksgiving, but when I barely know them and he doesn't really WANT to spend a lot of time with him, why does he invite them?!