My mum had a lot to do with my abuse, her lover sexually and emotionally abused me. My mother is narcissistic and emotionally abused me and sexually on 2 occasions that I remember. I am going through therapy and I wanted her to give me some space so I asked her nicely on the phone and sent a nice letter explaining I needed this space for a while, she still puts me down and I have enough to cope with, she was fine about it and said she would still like to send me a birthday card.

I never received a card from her. I e.mailed my dad and asked him to give me some space too as we have separate issues, he has nothing to do with the abuse, but was never there and never told me he loved me. He sent me a beautiful card, money and called me, we both cried on the phone.

I know I shouldn't be bothered about my mum not sending me a card, but I was surprised to find myself quite hurt. I'm her only child, she knows I am in therapy etc.

I think she may have told everyone she knew nothing about the abuse cos she is in denial, she will have painted me black I know her and everyone will be saying 'how awful for you just let her be,' so I look the bad one. She does this all the time.

Am I being stupid? Am I right to feel hurt? I'm a it confused because the more I remember the more I despise her, mixed emotions here.

Jin