If he grew up with this kind of father then no wonder he is this way. They are happy but it sounds as their wives aren't unless "they put their headphones on", figuratively speaking.

Why are you focused on how to change him rather than how to change yourself, in particular how not to go for men who need changing. You can't change people. It's not your job.

First 8 months of relationship supposed to be a bliss, he supposed to be crazy in love and you two should be love birds. Your relationship is bad from the beginning! Why do you think you need to have a bad boyfriend and then work on changing him instead of looking for a nice boyfriend?