I would be super annoyed, too. Have you suggested that he take over the cooking and prep this year? I'm impressed that he ordered the turkey, I must admit. Is it too late to cancel the turkey (or save it for Xmas) and go out to eat like you had originally discussed?

Why *does* he invite them? Does he feel sorry for them or something?

I am also having Thanksgiving issues. My mother always gets passive aggressive about the holiday. We've all told her that if she doesn't want to do it, she doesn't have to - we can go to a restaurant. That's not good enough. She wanted me to host. I told her no and suggested we make reservations. We can't do that because so and so can't come until late. Long story short, I somehow got roped into helping prepare a pot luck meal. Nice how I'm on the hook but none of the males in the family are???