Good relationships are based on getting to know each other, spending time talking and finding common interests. Sex too early tends to circumvent this process, since some couples start concentrating too much on that behavior.

Long lasting relationships need the friendship factor, since sexual ability and desire wane some with time.

Listen, I am a 61-year-old lady, married 28 years, with a Ph.D. in social psychology. I go against all this sexual promiscuity and obsession in the current culture. Yes, I am an old "fuddy-duddy."

Of course, we all want to think the way we believe (sex or no sex) in a non-marital relationship is the way to go.

Stolemyheart87, it's your decision to make, dear one. Just remember, though, that virginity can only be given away once. I care about you and am the grandma giving you my advice.