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Do you think growing up around a fractured marriage is what really caused me to have such insecurity issues, rather than earlier relationships where I was constantly lied to and possibly (unsure) cheated on? Or possibly both?
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My perspective would be that growing up insecure left you vulnerable to getting involved with, and staying in, unhealthy relationships.
You might be interested in the topic
Childhood Emotional Neglect, e.g.
About Emotional Neglect | Dr. Jonice Webb
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I was misunderstanding her last night and felt like she was being closed off so I asked her and it ended up her being defensive.
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Your statement that she was being closed off could come across as an accusation and therefore prompt a defensive response. Another way to approach her would have been to make a "I Statement", such as
I feel closed off from you right now, and that makes me sad. This states how you feel without necessarily prompting a defensive reaction from her.