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Old Nov 09, 2016, 01:44 PM
spiritofjosh spiritofjosh is offline
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Originally Posted by Bill3 View Post
Your statement that she was being closed off could come across as an accusation and therefore prompt a defensive response. Another way to approach her would have been to make a "I Statement", such as I feel closed off from you right now, and that makes me sad. This states how you feel without necessarily prompting a defensive reaction from her.
You're absolutely right and I tried wording it like that but wasn't sure how to put it to words without getting into a huge justification. I just stated that her feelings, good or bad, are very important to me. I even said if she wants to vent with an emotional tidal wave and lay it on me, then I'm there for her and know what I signed up for. She told me again today when she was on work break thanking me for understanding her and coming to talk to her and will try and be more open to me so we stay on the same page. I just had to make it clear that it's not necessarily for my sake, but hers.
Thanks for this!
Bill3