Hello Stevieschild: Welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

With regard to the specifics of your post, I should first say I am not a mental health professional. So what I will say here is strictly my own personal opinion. Personally, what you're describing does not sound like depression to me. (I won't suggest what it does sound like because, there again, I'm not a mental health professional and I personally feel that guessing at diagnoses by non-professionals potentially does more harm than good.) But, in my experience at least, a person who is struggling with unipolar depression would lack the energy, or the desire, to launch the kind of vitriolic attacks you describe. So I wonder if your child has been professionally evaluated. Of course it is true that, often times, mental health professionals like to label anything that moves as depression. It's easy. But that doesn't make it accurate. So the first thing I would suggest here is to have your child evaluated if she has not been. Or if she has, perhaps consider seeking a second opinion.

Beyond that, I would say... no... you absolutely should not have to sit and absorb the kind of verbal abuse it sounds like you're receiving. You are not a whipping post. And it is not doing either you, or your child, any good to allow her to pummel you as she sees fit. Absolutely no one else in her life will ever put up with such treatment. So the sooner whatever is going on with her is treated, & she learns more appropriate ways to channel her anger, the better... in my opinion. You are going to have to learn to establish and enforce some personal boundaries with her. In order to do this effectively, you may find that you'll need to procure some individual counseling / therapy for yourself as well as some family counseling for your child, yourself, & anyone else who is a member of the family.

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