.....because proberbly when younger it did feel frightening and fearful and shameful to need someone. The trouble with stuff that happened in our childhood is that the fears we had around that then were the fears that were normal for a child to feel. Now as adults we think we shouldn't be feeling this way, but this way comes from another time and live as unresolved energy inside us until we voice our fears and re-live them and see even IF were abandoned or rejected NOW that it wouldnt be the same. We'd survive but we need to experience that in the here and now. Once you've voiced these fears with your T you will see who you are today and understand why you were so afraid then. We forget we weren't adults with our inner child back then.