Thank you for the insight. I've spent so much time trying to learn and practice the doc's and don't s of what has manifested in this child. But, I haven't found anything, yet, that deals with this specific problem. I know, intuitively, that I need to set boundaries about this behavior. But, the other part of me knows she has a reason for being angry, however unjust I feel its application -- I couldn't help being ill and did everything I could to make sure they were cared for and knew that they were loved.