I was sick, debilitated, for several years. I have a large family, but my children were very young when I became ill. I understand how it can get out of control. One of the hardest things I had to do was forgive myself if there were dirty dishes in the sink, as long as my kids were taken care of. My house was a mess for a very long time. But, as I was able, I would start in the kitchen. Then, I would set one day for nothing but laundry...not even the kitchen. And, so on. Gradually, I whittled it away. A former neat freak, I guess I did come to convince myself that, on scale, I had more important things. Still, I, like you, have a better outlook when my home is decent. It just isn't the highest thing on the list for me anymore. Try batching it, one thing at a time. Good luck.