I want to thank everyone again for their replies. You've all helped me think about this more clearly, and helped give me the bravery to talk things over with my fiance.

It's been good and bad. We figured some stuff out, like the job situation, and the moving situation. When it came to religion though, there was a total breakdown of communication. He finally decided that he would just move out because marriage obviously was not going to work, since we wouldn't be able to agree on how to raise our hypothetical children. And he doesn't even know if he wants kids!!

I said "look, if that's really what you want, then that sucks, but just let me know when you want to move out. I was really hoping that we could go to a counselor, and try to work through this, but if that's not what you want, then I'm not going to make you. If you don't want to try and work this out, then there's not much I can do about it".

After that we talked for a while more, and I finally made the concession that I would go to see the one counselor that lives 3 HOURS AWAY FROM US. Is that ridiculous, or what? But, I don't have anyone near us who I know of, and I know I will always wonder if I did everything I could to save it if I don't go.

So, the drama continues...