I married at 16. My husband and I will be married for 41 years in January. Let me say this:

Opposites may attract, but likes stay together. I heard that once. I will also say that our successful and happy marriage has flourished because we allow each to have their own opinion, whether we agree or not. (We can agree to disagree...no fighting).

Think of it this way, 2 trees growing too closely side by side cannot both flourish and grow to their potential. If one is too close to the other, then the one in the shade is stunted while the other tree continues to grow. My husband and I have allowed each of us to grow strong and tall. Don't take the position of being the stunted tree that is overshadowed. You can disagree with each other, but each is still an individual. Be yourself, he should "allow" you to be, as you should allow him to be an individual also while you grow together.

As for communication, well, the old "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" can be so true! It takes a lot of work to communicate your feelings properly, and have them understood by your spouse as you intended. But I say the work has been so worth it for us.

I hope all works out. I understand that finding a good mate is very hard these days. If you two are in love, it will last through these currently trying times.