Counselor is a good way to figure out things for you both but keep in mind no therapist can make you agree on things like what is important to you vs what he finds important. As in, the religion thing (this is my perspective only) is a very difficult thing to be in disagreement about in a marriage, with or without children in mind. It can, of course, work, but I'm just putting it out there that this is a subject that can be a big deal within a committed relationship because it underscores our motivations for many other things in life. It's not something to take lightly. Mind you I am NOT saying give up, I'm just saying this is something very important to consider in moving ahead.