Hello stefmcdee: I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation. Personally I don't see any solution here other than for you to get back out on your own as quickly as possible. There is nothing you can do to impact the relationship between your mom & her wife. That is between them. You simply have to focus on taking care of yourself by getting out on your own asap.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!