one thing my non parent friends had to adjust to was that when a person has a baby their whole life changes. everything revolves around the baby, baby issues, play dates where parents get together with their children, parents get a baby sitter and go out to socialize together, even something as simple as going out shopping changes from going out shopping with friends to going out shopping with other parents, going to child friendly events...

as a parent or a pregnant person...when you have a friend that tells you something like...I dont like kids, I dont want to ever have any kids, I dont want to be around any kids that literally translates over to ok so I wont talk about my pregnancy with you, I wont bring by children around where they are not wanted, I only want my children to be around people who like children. not someone who doesnt like children. bottom line children are noisy, messy and can make someone who hates children uncomfortable and upset.

Im taking a guess here that your friend is just honoring what you told her. you dont like kids and her whole word revolves around her kid. from that moment on when you told her that your two lives took two different paths, hers parenthood and every aspect of her life is now parenthood issues and yours is remaining non parenthood\childless.

my suggestion if you would like her and her child in your life you are going to have to be the one to make contact and clarify what you want and you are willing to change your attitude of not liking children if you expect to have her child in your life. Im not saying you have to go out and get pregnant but she and her child will know if you say one thing and show another in this situation. you cant say yes I accept you and your child back in my life then get upset and yelling and such if the child someday spills something or writes on something they shouldnt or throws a temper tantrum in your home. by telling your friend you accept her and her child and want them back in your life you are accepting not only the good stuff but the bad side of having a child in your life.