Well a good sex therapist will know how to investigate the causes of loss of erection and will be completely comfortable and knowledgeable in speaking to you about it. They will have ideas about where the problem came from, how to solve it, and they will make suggestions for you to try.

I suspect that you will find that your losses of erection are not medically related (they will consider that and possibly have you go to a doctor) but rather are somehow related to your background, thoughts and experiences about sex, and/or your relationship with your girlfriend. A good sex therapist will help you figure that out and get past it.

It does concern me that you found your previous therapy to be a waste of time. It is important that you have a basic belief that a therapist can help you; complete skepticism about therapy works against the success of treatment. On the other hand, though, I am certain that you want to resolve the problem and in my mind at least a good sex therapist is the logical person to help you do that. This is what they do for a living.

So here is what I suggest: Find a sex therapist by going to one or both of these websites:

www.aasect.org (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)

Home - Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR) (Society for Sex Therapy and Research)

Only use someone who is a member of one or both of these organizations.

Once you have a person or two or three in mind, contact them for an introductory meeting. Tell them about losing erections and see what they have to say, and if they have experience working on loss of erection. I expect that they will. If, after meeting with them, you find someone who you have confidence in, then work with that person for a while and see what sort of results you get. I think that they can help you.