And you are with this person ... WHY exactly again?

I'm sorry but I see absolutely no reason why you are bothering to stay in this situation. Leave that house. Leave that loser. Go now. Don't put it off. Pack, grab the dogs, and go. Anywhere. Find a friend with a spare room, a family member you can trust, a shelter somewhere. GET OUT. Before you end up DEAD. Or worse: living a life where you progressively come to believe this is your fault OR you deserve it somehow OR it's your duty to endure it, OR ALL THREE AND MORE.

If it were me, there'd be no love LEFT at that point to keep me there. You mistreat me, you're history. You need a dose of that yourself. Feel free to borrow mine, just please, respect yourself enough to ditch this piece of garbage. Life's too short and there are wonderful men out there who are good looking AND great in bed AND will treat you like a QUEEN. Go find one!

p.s. - is this why you feel you can't tell anyone, because they will respond like I did and like others here have, and encourage you to take care of yourself and get out of there? Maybe you feel like they "don't understand" if they tell you that? I don't know, I can't read your mind. But I'd venture to guess that AT LEAST a PART of you wants out of this hell and that's why you opened up and broke the silence. I'm GLAD you did. That's a good first step and it was very brave of you to take it. I just can't stand to see people put up with this kind of crap! If you get out now, and if you really love him, it gives you the power to issue an ultimatum like so: "Jon, I do care about you and I wish we could be together, but I cannot handle your anger and violence. If you want to be with me, you must see a therapist and a doctor and get it under control first. Then we can discuss our future. But not one second before." And mean it. And ENFORCE it. Meaning he must establish a treatment history and show definite progress before you'll even consider thinking about resuming the relationship. PERIOD. Then it becomes his choice -- and if he chooses his anger and violence over you, you'll KNOW you made the right choice by walking away when you did.