I believe people that are passive-aggressive are unwilling to communicate their true feelings due to an inner insecurity, so they go to extremes to control situations through tactics that are manipulative. I have a family member that I was honest with about an issue that was causing problems in our relationship. She listened and actually sounded glad we had the conversation, but later she went and told other family members I was mean to her. You try to speak open and honestly with the other person, but they always seem to have a 'front' that they put on and hide their true intentions.

It is frustrating.