I wish I had left it at that instead of trying to be proactive and suggesting an alternative. My boyfriend even pointed out that I seemed like I was setting myself up for future resentment and unhappiness with the way I was handling the situation. He was right.

That was why I sent the really brief message tonight. I do not want to engage in this conversation with her. I feel sorry for her, but she needs to work this stuff out with someone else, like a therapist. Not me.