(((((Pinkvilla)))))

That husband of yours sounds like he's being a real jerk. While it may be tempting to throw an ultimatum his way, I think that you should ask your therapist what they think of that idea first. For instance, is it safe? Or, will you have to watch what you say to avoid pushing him any further? I certainly don't know, and I wouldn't want to give you any dangerous advice.

Imo, abuse is abuse. It doesn't take much for an abuser to switch from verbal to physical (been there with my grandpa). Just be wary, that's all.