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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Shame to me is deeper than embarassment. I don't know how I could live with people finding out about what I am ashamed of. They certainly wouldn't laugh.
And that is for me what embarrassment is about - being laughed at. I consider humiliation to simply be an incredibly acute state of embarrassment.
I have spent a great deal of life making choices based on avoiding the perception I might be laughed at. I have made some really hard decisions that haven't always been the best for me just to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation.
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I'm the same, it's very painful and debilitating. It's taken away my life and there's not much anyone can do about it. Shame lies at the very heart of my problems/phobias - toxic shame - and due to it's pervasiveness, is the cause [imo] of why I fall into the behaviours of avoidant personality disorder. In spite of my best efforts the final defence has become isolation, but even then it still wants to attack me.
Anyway, I appreciated relating to peoples thoughts in this thread, thank you.