This is one of the first threads I started when I came on here. The situation didn't improve. My mom's health got much worse.

So now we have another Thanksgiving. My kids will all be here, God willing. I'll cook. H's parents are still alive, but definitely will say no when I invite them. My parents may come if I invite them. I guess that's the right thing to do. I should also invite my cousin and his gf.

But now this becomes stressful as usual and causes me anxiety attack and tears because I am sure to get opposition in some way from mother and h, as usual. Holidays have become a trigger for me.

Plus now my dining room is torn apart. I am scraping the wall paper off and only 1/3 done and there is mold in the wall that smells and needs repair. How am I making Thanksgiving in that dining room?

I can't take the crowd out to eat as my son has severe eating restrictions due to his IBS.

Plus my parents really aren't well enough to drive here and back.

What to do?