Yes, I think she has no idea how problematic her behavior is. I have been direct with her in the past, but it just makes no difference. She argues with me.

Maybe she doesn't know what kind of relationship she is supposed to have with her children. All of us find her too overbearing And difficult to be around. The fundamental problem at this point is that she wants a closer relationship, but I don't. I guess I am just going to delete the text message thread and forget about this. I told her I wanted independence. how can I explain that any further? Why do I have to?

Glad I'm not alone in these kinds of feelings, but I'm sorry other people have similar situations!