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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
Heather, consider this breakup to be more of a break...some time for you.
And yes, please keep posting. We can help during those times when you simply must text him or you're crying your eyes out.
I'm sure we've all been where you are. It will get better, and we can help get you through.

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details of what happened:
Im not sure if I wrote out exactly what happened. I have another thread on here called, "yep..back with more. Its been rough" where I detail more about the break up and how it came to happen.
But last night I told him I wasnt ready to throw in the towel because of 4 hard months as opposed to more than 20 great ones and a whole future.
He said to me that he was unhappy because it was always a struggle with me and argument when he wanted to do something or go somewhere and I didnt want to.
He told me that he cant deal with me being mad about him going out with his friends (the only time I got mad was when he was being distant the first time-with me and my coworker-and he went to the bar after work and didnt hear from him until 1 am. and when he took one of our designated wednesdays to go to a bday for someone he never even hung out with before). and that at this point he would never be able to hang out with any of his female friends because of how angry I would be. He said it was weird when I reached out to his "awesome" female friend.
I said to him...what I need to know is if we're done. Because I cant sit around until you figure it out.
He said, if you need an answer then for now I have to say yes. I just said okay and left.
Then on text about an hour later I said "Im sorry I couldnt make you happy"
He told me not to blame myself and he will always love me and never forgive himself for this but its what he feels is right for him at the moment.
He will come to pick up his stuff and drop mine off on Monday probably. Im just going to leave it outside my door for him.
I dont think this is just a break because he isnt the type to do those "games" and isnt the type to be friends with an ex.
I have a horrible headache and have bouts of crying fits, havnt eaten since wednesday (trying to have fries now). Most of the stuff I own, he bought me or gave me. Im 27 and I thought for sure this would be the last one...the one I spent my life with. I cant go through another break-up its killing me.
Straw man at it might be, he broke up with me because his friends are more important to him.