Bill,

The counselor who live 3 hours away is a Rabbi that he respects and has studied with.

I wanted to find someone closer to us, but he was not willing to. He actually said he was going to move out right before Thanksgiving since we weren't seeing eye to eye on religion. So I finally said fine, let's go see this guy. Maybe I can gain some insight into what is going on in his head anyway.

It's just kind of a last ditch effort. I don't expect it to work. There just seems to be an inflexibility there.

I'm mostly expecting to find out that if I'm not willing to convert, then his relationship with me isn't "sanctioned by god", or something like that. At least then I can let go with a clear conscience. If it wasn't for me pressing him on these issues now, then we would be married, and facing a divorce for the same exact issues later, and it would be much worse if children were involved.

This just sucks, but I've been through it before, so I'll just have to take the emotional beating and keep going.