Hello Oscliiapram: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So I wanted to say welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry your & your wife's relationship has reached this sad point. I don't know as there is much I can offer you with regard to your concerns. From my perspective, I think the primary thing here is going to be the extent to which you & your wife can facilitate this break-up smoothly & amicably. Have the two of you discussed this? Are you in agreement that this has to occur?

It might be helpful if the two of you would be willing to participate in some couples counseling... not in an effort to save the marriage... but in an effort to clear the way through the separation & divorce process. There is tremendous potential for anger & hostility in a marriage break-up... from custody issues to financial concerns. The fewer disagreements (or outright arguments) the two of you can have the better for your two sons. Unfortunately if you're simply leaving, & your wife is not in agreement, I'm afraid the reality is that this is all just going to be harsh & there's no way to make it anything else, in my opinion. I wish all of you the best...

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!