"Reconciliation is made possible by the free choice of the victimizer to repent and to repair the damage of the injury,"

The problem was that my sister always became defensive. If she'd ever said, "I understand what you're saying," and then, didn't try to get her needs met through my husband, I could reconcile with her.

She's never realized that I'm giving her a gift by trying to reason with her. I'm treating her like an equal. But she isn't there yet.

I always tried to forgive and forget so I wouldn't have to deal with the pain of being told there's something wrong with me for having feelings. Do you know how much it hurts to be told, "You're just too sensitive?" Also, "Has your doctor given you medication?" when I'm trying to deal with anger. This is my growing up family that I want separation from, but my husband doesn't get it.

Man, Thanks for the therapy session!