That's not true. I never said no fun is allowed. I do know how to enjoy myself. I just use this forum to vent about the stuff that bothers me and how my trauma is triggered. I come here for support....not for people to assume that no fun is allowed when you've never been around me, let alone in the bedroom with me. It's not always about me....if anything, I'm a major people pleaser in bed and otherwise. Combine mania and blocking out stuff from trauma....you get the picture, or at least you should. Now, things are coming down and hitting me hard. It's sad that you think I'm trying to "control" his sex life, when it should be about BOTH of us. Not just him. I'm finally once and for all thinking about myself.

He's never said anything about not having fun. Quite the contrary, and we've had a lot of variety in our sex life, and he's always expressed that it has been a lot of fun. The only issue here is the webcam issue. Part of the reason I was betrayed was that I though everything was fine since I've always went out of my way to make sure he's having a good time. Not that it was ever a burden....it always pleased me to please him up until this whole incident, and everything was reciprocal in that area.

I find your post offensive, and you aren't aware of my experiences. Fun is welcomed, but I draw the line with the webcamming with others. I actually still have sex that is good and fun on both sides, but I DON'T think about myself enough. You should be ashamed of yourself for not knowing even an ounce of the truth or half of what I'm trying to convey and passing judgment on me when I am revealing my emotions in the most vulnerable state possible, as I have gone through a lot of trauma that apparently you don't even care to begin to understand, so I'm clueless as to why you are posting in the first place. I don't come here to be judged and it took a lot for me to express how I feel without thinking about pleasing others all the time in all situations.

I'm at my breaking point. I'm someone who likes feedback. Your assumptions are asinine, and if you don't know all the facts, then you shouldn't include such offensive, judgmental, and triggering feedback without knowing the whole story. I thought this was a Psych forum where others show understanding and empathy while giving feedback that is constructive, yet supportive, and I don't think I'm in the wrong for having a different belief than you when it comes to what qualifies as a betrayal in my relationship.