I think you misunderstood me.

You can choose to draw the line in your relationhip wherever you want. But it sounded like you were unsure the webcam was the line, if he didnt immediately agree to it.

Its like, thats the problem with giving someone an ultimatum - what if they call you on it? There is no room for talking about it. Now i understand what you were saying, space vs silent treatment.

I do have a problem with you trying to control what he does in his free private time alone - i dont understand how this hurts you. He needs his space too.

Really im not judging you. I appreciate the difficulty of determining if a person is trustworthy or if he is rushing and pushing you blindly into a decision that meets his own needs.