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Originally Posted by unaluna
I agree with you, but they are not married. I object more to the ultimatum aspect, that she feels she has the right to decree. To object and discuss is one thing; but to think you have the right to say, that hurts me so you must stop - i dont agree.
He is not touching her, and he is not touching another person, so no danger of bringing home disease.
A man can tell a woman, it hurts me if you work, so you must stay home. Or it hurts me if you wear certain clothes, good or bad. So whats the difference then? It is still coercion.
I am not sure if the problem is coercion in general, or the webcam in specific. I dont think it is just the webcam.
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We just have to agree to disagree.
Married or not, if they discussed and agreed to exclusive relationship then fidelity is as important as in marriage (for me). I consider it infidelity.
I don't know about ultimatums. In general if he is the type to do webcaming he isn't the type for me. I wouldn't be coercing. I would be gone. We all have rights to choose our deal breakers. For me it would be a deal breaker, op is apprehensive and you consider its acceptable.
I don't understand what you mean her "having no rights to say he has to stop". If he has rights to webcam then she has rights to say whatever she needs to say. Seems double standard to me. Like his rights are more important.
And there is more to cheating than disease.