I agree with you here. I am not saying it would be acceptable to me. I am not saying it would be unacceptable. I really dont know, i am not in this situation.

If something is a dealbreaker, okay. You dont want that in your life. You take responsibility for that.

But i dont think it is right to say, i feel hurt by that action, therefore you must stop it. Because that can become abusive, or intrusive. And then the other person starts lying to you because they feel you are being unreasonable. Then what do you have?

Some people say, "i dont care where my spouse gets their appetite, as long as they always have dinner at home."