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Originally Posted by healingme4me
You have the right to stay in the car and not go into the store.
You have the right to be a bit crabby if you are under the weather.
I'm not clear about the part of not listening to him? Is it because he didn't catch your attention and your focus was elsewhere? What type of things are you not listening to?
I also find discomfort reading about your apologizing for various things. To me, it's a flag, only because of my experience in my marriage where an apology was soothing and enabling his poor choices in behavior. "If only I hadn't done x-y-z, then he wouldn't be so raging angry" and I found myself apologizing for things that didn't warrant an apology. And xyz could be having worn makeup and him noticing some guy looking at me. Or because I didn't answer the phone on the first ring. Or because I was caught in traffic. That's why I ask.
Why apologize for being human?
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well i do agree with you, there are times where i'm confused to why i should apoligize, but in my head i usually think that i had to do something wrong for someone to be upset at me. i have a really low self esteem. there's been plenty of times in our relationship where i felt like i didn't do anythibg wrong, and he would eventually apoligize to me and say that i didn't do anything, he was just being mad. a few weeks ago, i was addressing how when these situations happen, they're very confusing cause i'll ask him what he wants me to do to change or how i can make him not upset and i've gottwn super angry about it, we've screamed and cussed and shouted at each other, and he's said that he's aware of it and says that he's an asshole and i shouldn't be with him cause he's not gonna let me win, meaning that he's always gonna try to be right. he said he acts like a jerk to me and mentioned he was heartbroken previously and that he didn't always act like this.