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Originally Posted by unaluna
I agree with you here. I am not saying it would be acceptable to me. I am not saying it would be unacceptable. I really dont know, i am not in this situation.
If something is a dealbreaker, okay. You dont want that in your life. You take responsibility for that.
But i dont think it is right to say, i feel hurt by that action, therefore you must stop it. Because that can become abusive, or intrusive. And then the other person starts lying to you because they feel you are being unreasonable. Then what do you have?
Some people say, "i dont care where my spouse gets their appetite, as long as they always have dinner at home."
Eta - sorry, we cross posted.  |
People who say they don't care where their spouses get their appetite have nothing to do with this thread. It's like saying some people have open relationship. It's irrelevant to this thread. Clearly op isn't ok with any of it.
I haven't met anyone (of either gender) who was ok with what this guy did. I think expecting faithfulness is common sense and has nothing to do with control or abuse. I really don't see anything controlling here.
Well if freedom to do what he wants in private time (as long as no disease is brought home) is so valuable, then this guy got plenty of private time now to enjoy himself. Raven is moving on.