People who say they don't care where their spouses get their appetite have nothing to do with this thread. It's like saying some people have open relationship. It's irrelevant to this thread. Clearly op isn't ok with any of it.

I haven't met anyone (of either gender) who was ok with what this guy did. I think expecting faithfulness is common sense and has nothing to do with control or abuse. I really don't see anything controlling here.

Well if freedom to do what he wants in private time (as long as no disease is brought home) is so valuable, then this guy got plenty of private time now to enjoy himself. Raven is moving on.