I also have ADHD with a few other dx's. My DH gets very frustrated with me as well. I also take Wellbutrin XL and Ritalin LA for the ADHD. It helps me tremendously, and if I miss the meds once- boom! I'm in a loop full of trouble. The meds for me make a world of difference.

Support is very much needed. If your marriage is suffering due to the illness, then therapy is needed. My illness has stood between me and my DH. It almost cost us to lose our marriage. It was not just the ADHD, but more than that. Other avenues as well combined. Needless to say, against my DH"s wishes, he went into marriage counseling. Going against the grain for him was the best thing he ever did for our marraige, himself, and me as well. It salvaged our relationship. He came out gleaming a winner, and so did I. We now have thrived for our setback that we had during that time with my illness. My meds were tweaked some, and that too, also helped. I received individual counseling too, and that helped as well.

Therapy can be done through e-mail if you request it to be done that way under circumstances. Their job is to help family relationships, etc.

Hang in there with the relationship of your wife. Do not give up.

As to the memory issues. I too, have those really bad. It can be med related along with the illness combined.

Take care

JR