I am REALLY tired of H trying to convince SD to move up here! She's 19, has expressed no interest in moving up here, she has all her friends down there, she told him when she visited here last month that she has applied at jobs down there. She was here for 3 days and not once was there a discussion about her going back to school or getting a job. The ONLY time it was talked about was about 20 minutes after she arrived and he said to her "So what's up with the job?" and that's when she told him Starbucks didn't work out and she's applying at a few other places and will start working next quarter when she goes back to school. He basically said "That's cool" and then the rest of the time it was all about making sure she was happy. For a month leading up to her visit he was going on to me about how she needs to get her act together and her mother isn't doing her any favors and how she should come up here and get a job, but then doesn't even talk to her about it when she's here.

Then last Wednesday, the day after the election, she posts some meme on Facebook. Nothing political, just some animal meme and H responds to it with "That's cute" and then says "So what's your plan to fight back against the recent election?? School is a good start!" to which she replies "Um I already registered so yea I'm sure ill make a good start!" He either didn't see that or just ignored it because then yesterday he kept pinging her on Facebook again. Here's the conversation:

H:How are you going to fight back for the next two years? More elections coming then how will you influence that event? Go back to school.

No reply from SD.

Later on in the afternoon, after he had been on Facebook all afternoon dissing all his friends that voted for Trump (who were getting really agitated with all his political posts) he sends her another message:

H:I thought you might enjoy this conversation. Don't get downhearted by the current situation. Become energized and act with courage and truth. Be a part of the next election cycle in two years and work to change things for the better. He ended up sending her this whole Facebook conversation he had with another guy.

SD: I know it just was very shocking for me to see how panicked everyone was because I wasn't scared before and then I logged into Facebook and all my friends are freaking out. It just was a bit shocking for me.

H: All the more reason to separate yourself from the drama and think towards the future. What do you want?

SD:I know I know it just was a bit scary.

H: All we have to fear is fear itself. Think about when I wheelied on the motorcycle. It was scary because you didn't understand it.

SD:Well yea. But I mean I know it'll be what it'll be.

H: True to an extent. But you are able to directly influence this so it turns from "it is what it is" to "It is but it was because I changed it"

SD: I know dad.

H: Remember that time study we did? Where I asked you to outline how you spend your time?

SD: Yes

H: Do it again

SD: OK

H:I know I put some stuff out there that's hard to deal with. But I love you and want you to be a complete human. The place where I work is going to be hiring again soon. You can sell motorcycle clothes.

SD: Dad I'm sorry but it's Julie's birthday day and I'm trying to spend time with her.

H: Ok have fun.

SD: We'll try

Has he totally NOT seen that she has posted that she is registered to go back to school? And he thinks having her come up here, leaving her mother, to work with him selling motorcycle clothes is her dream?? Or will set her on the path to independence and glory?? She obviously has no desire to even have that conversation with him. Whats the difference if she's selling motorcycle clothes up here or working at Target down there?

And I totally don't understand him with the whole "You need to fight back against the election and the way for you to do that is to leave all your friends, come up here, get away from your mother's grip and work with me"?? Does that make ANY sense to anyone??!!