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Originally Posted by fishin fool
Welcome aboard, I have been through this very issue myself.
I stayed in a marriage for many years only for the kids.
I am happy to be divorced and even though my kids were young adults
at the time it seems I still came out the bad guy.
I am and always have been a good and solid father to my kids but I guess
it was tough on them and somehow the man usually takes the blame.
I waited years to move forward with the divorce and in the end I feel like it
made a little bit of a difference but not a huge one.
They had a stable home to grow up in but they told me they knew something
was wrong for a long time.
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Thanks...
I think I know the answer to my first question and that there's no right time as far as kids are concerned. With the two being so young and vulnerable and the onset of the holiday season, I have zero energy or appetite for the trauma that lies ahead.
I have no doubt she'll take it badly and be as viscous and nasty as I know she can be. She seems happy to maintain the status quo and seems to like being married; just not to me. Separation counseling seems to be out the question, given her rejection of marriage counseling.
While she has an extended network and family and friends, I face this alone. This is going to be rough... For now, I've chosen to bide my time and try to prepare myself as best I can.
Thanks for your insight though.