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Originally Posted by Trace14
Oh yes, I can relate. The wanting to get better, but the fear of letting someone in to help. Then the attitude of the therapist, well...you are not ready for counseling if you don't want to open up. It's not a matter of wanting to, I want to, my head doesn't trust you enough to do that and your attitude just confirmed my head was right. It's a lot of push and pull in the head.
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Trace14,
You expressed it perfectly! That conflict between trusting - and fear of trusting - is very strong. Sometimes, I don't think t's realize how difficult it is for us to open up and trust them to the degree that is necessary to do deep therapy work. If they have not suffered some of the traumatic relationship experiences we have, it may be hard for them to understand why we can't just trust them easier.