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Originally Posted by Myrto
I had a session with my therapist today. It was awful. To everything I said, she responded "it's your interpretation". To the fact that she could just delete my emails, that the therapy was punitive, that it was completely misguided, etc. Everytime, the same response: it's your interpretation. I even asked what her supervisor thought of the whole thing. She refused to answer. It was like, literally, talking to a wall. She doesn't want to answer, she has decided, it is the way it is. She didn't used to be like that. Two years and a half of investment, money, energy and it ends like that. I'm heartbroken. And she gets away with everything. She gets to carry on with her life, convinced that she was right, while I'm left alone to pick up the pieces. Please don't tell me to just find another therapist. Other therapists clearly don't want to hear my story. Besides, I would have to start again, to start from zero, tell my story all over again, I just can't. What's the point? How can I eve trust another therapist? After all this? How?
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here in my own location when a treatment provider says the words ....
it's your interpretation.... they are honoring the fact that everyone is different and everyone has the right to think and believe what ever they want to about anything that happens in their life.
example one day I was feeling particularly argumentative I pointed to one of my treatment providers favorite objects and said "thats the ugliest thing you have ever made" rather than engaging with my argumentative mood she simply stated "thats your interpretation" meaning I had a right to make my own opinions about that object, even if she didnt think it was ugly I still as a human being could think what ever I wanted to think about that object.
this kind of thing follows through with anything. as a human being with a thinking brain I can and do have my own opinions and views \ beliefs. my treatment providers treat me as a human being who has the right to express what ever opinions I feel I want to say. they dont have to agree with me, like the ugly ashtray it is my own interpretation (my own thoughts, beliefs, opinions) that they are honoring,
my treatment providers believe its more therapeutic to accept me for who and what I am and what I say and think are my own interpretations, rather than engaging into a debate or argument and trying to make me change to their own interpretations (their own thoughts, beliefs, opinions).
I actually like it that my own treatment providers do not want to spend therapy time fighting and arguing trying to change me to their own beliefs, their own opinions, their own thoughts.
btw I did have a treatment provider in the past that did try to fight and argue and change my own interpretations to theirs. I ended up telling that guy that I was not his pet dog or rat that needed training. I was a human being with feelings, thoughts, emotions, beliefs of my own and if he could not treat me with the respect of a human being rather than a dog that needs someone else to tell them what to think and do then he wasnt the therapist for me. then I walked out and never went back.
I am not going to say find another treatment provider....only you can decide whether you want to stay with a treatment provider that accepts that you have your own beliefs, interpretations, opinions of things that happen to you, or if you want to have a therapist that will fight argue and try to change your own opinions, beliefs, interpretations.
only you can decide if you want to continue to see a treatment provider who seems to bring you more stress and emotional pain or not.