So, I am in my late 30's, been single for the better part of a decade after spending 10years with a man I thought was the one.
To be honest it took three years to get over him, maybe longer to get over losing what we had but eventually I was content just me and the kids and my Xbone. Oh and the dog, I loved my dog.

Anyway earlier this year I met up with one of my online gaming buddies, just for coffee and a chat. ( we have gamed and chatted for the last 2 years).
He says to me there is something I need to know first. That it's heavy **** and that he understands if I don't want to see him after he tells me.
Long story short he was convicted of raping his partner. And received a seven year sentence. 4 served inside, 3 served on license.
I was definately shocked, but it didn't and still doesn't bother me. I have met his social worker, his OMO his PO and am aware in detail of the circumstances of his conviction.
He is Younger than me not massivly but enough and it's 10 years since his offence.

So what's the problem. The problem is that our sexual deviances/paraphilias line up almost perfectly, and I am afraid I will do him more harm than good. I care for him deeply I may even be in love with him and whilst I am not afraid of him or what he may do to me. I worry about what effect it would have on him, he has worked hard to complete all his groups, and one to ones. Although I know he feels he is fighting against himself, I don't want to be the reason for that.
We have talked long and hard about this. He had long ago decided he wouldn't get involved again, as had I.
Outside the bedroom our relationship is really good, healthy. We talk, laugh, fallout occasionally but it's easy to make up again.

I don't know, I guess I just wanted to write this and try and see it from the outside.
Just for the record he is no threat to strangers, or my kids, his m.o is partner assault. And only in that one relationship.

Feel free to comment, or not. If you made it through my waffle thanku.