Quote:
Originally Posted by Erebos
I thank you all for your time. I wonder if someone commits any crime they are to be permenantly branded for all time. Regardless of the remorse shown or the steps taken to self improvement. If that were the case there would be a lot of people living isolated and segregated lives. I would certainly be among them.
I suspect I would have received more sympathy and understanding if I had said he was a murderer.
So if they are never to earn the right to a life with humanitarian values, why bother with jail at all. Why not simply dispose of them. The liberatzi's can't have it all ways. Anti-death sentence. But once a crim always a crim. Where is the basis for reform.
10 years ago when still a very immature young man, he embarked on an incredibly unhealthy relationship, where sex was used as a weapon, by both parties. He did an awful thing. Then he paid for it with a punishment handed down the court. He continues to abide by all the rules and restrictions impressed upon him.Nor does he complain. He will be on the sex offenders register for at least 15 years. Then it can be reviewed, and sadly will continue to be a burden to the state because he cannot find employment anywhere, to pay for himself or the maintenance for his son he won't ever see. ( again entirely within his ex's rights and utterly understandable.). Despite filling out application after application everyday.
Whilst I appreciate the concern, and I absolutely admit that rape by its very nature should be considered a violent offence regardless, of wether a hand is raised or not. I have no interest in going into this blind. This is a man with whom I have an awful lot in common. I have been friends with for years. Who also took a massive risk in telling me what he did. Even if I wasn't in a relationship with him I would not be one to turn my back on someone who was making very definate steps toward bettering themselves.
I must reiterate, I have NEVER taken his word as given. I have always checked it with records or his workers. He has never lied, or understated anything that transpired. This was not because I didn't believe him but because I felt it would be irresponsible to enter this uninformed. What I was suprised was how many women are in my situation. When I entered the partners support network.
Anyway once again I thank you all for any time and effort you have spent in replying. All the best. Erie.
|
The reason first, I mentioned he seemed to be a repeat offender, was and still is something that would concern me. You have to admit you had to have known the number of warning bells that would go off in this forum right?
But I also, myself added the question as to whether he had shown remorse or regret, which would be a factor.
I think the misunderstanding, and I would venture to guess that others may agree, is that you offered nothing of him other than the background related to the rapes. The absence of your providing the information that you are not concerned about it and why kind of left it out there as something that sounded much like you were unsure because of his past. I don't think the replies were unreasonable but I do think that even in your case, going ahead with it there are good thoughts to be gleaned here.
Stay safe, and I hope he is indeed a reformed person. Of course it's possible that's true it's just more often than not we hear of those that repeat their crimes and offenses even after serving time. Whether that's true or not it tends to color our view.