We not iggying you sept! But when things have gone on for so long, it is never a quick fix! It might take a few years of therapy...couple therapy.. unless you both are Dr Phil fans and want that tough love advice... if it's just one person working on it, well, it won't.

One person can continue to bear under the relationship, but it won't "work" unless both work at it.

Just like I think you and I had a disagreement when I first came on here about ventilation and internalization (neither being correct) you said, IMHO, correctly that neither yelling nor silent treatments work.

With that said, let me offer this: try to recall why you married him in the first place. I found that most ppl are unhappy by the very things that drew you to them in the beginning. (Such as, you loved the way he saved money, and now you might feel he is cheap and chinzey!) Try and remember that men don't usually "sit and chat" in general... but like to talk out stuff while they are busy.. shooting hoops, golf, workshop etc. Many men also don't need to be "told" over and over again, they don't respond that way, and often would rather let you think it will be your way , than argue...