My ex-T. gaslighted me a lot. I didn't realize it was happening until she terminated me and I watched the movie Gaslight. I started bawling realizing she did and my new T. confirmed.

I agree with the term of making you question your reality. I would tell her she seemed frustrated and she would say it's my transference. I would tell her I don't feel she's reassuring and she would tell me the rest of her clients feel that way and then tell me she is reassuring. Most of the times it was me saying I felt a certain way and her saying it was the transference removing herself completely from blame. I actually started to wonder what my reality was - was she what I was feeling or was I feeling the wrong thing. It was freaking crazy making.

You mentioned feeling she's saying those things so you'll end up leaving. I told her how all of this made me feel and then admitted that I sought another T's advice about the transference. In her termination letter, she sighted my desire to seek other's opinions as evidence that I was no longer feeling comfortable and was seeking therapy with others. However my new T. has pointed out that any professional T. would welcome a second opinion and be willing to do what is necessary to help their client.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope that you don't get to the point that you're questioning everything she is doing. That can be unhealthy as well.