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Originally Posted by LostOne369
I've been in therapy for about 5 years. Long story short, my husband and I need marriage counseling - badly. I didn't know where to start. I asked my T for help. She recommended another T in her office for my husband and I to see.
I'm terrified that my therapy will come up during sessions. I have a few "boogeymen" that my husband doesn't know about and I can't let him know. Seriously. I guess my T talked to her colleague about my need to keep therapy separate from marriage counseling. Our first session is in a couple of weeks. I'm debating if I should call this marriage T prior to the appointment too.
Has anyone else been in this situation - marriage counseling and individual T at the same time...at the same office? How did it go for you? Can they keep things "separate" after all??
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I'm in marriage counseling and see an individual T at the same practice (T referred me to her colleague, just like in your case). At the practice I go to, I have to sign papers allowing them to talk to each other--otherwise, they won't (and legally/ethically can't). And once I sign them (which I did), I can revoke that privilege at any time. So I'd find out what the policy is in your T's practice. If it turns out that they do allow information sharing without your permission, then I'd suggest looking for a marriage counselor at a different practice.
My T also won't talk to MC about something I've shared with her unless she gets my explicit (verbal) permission about it first. Like she might say, "Is it OK if I share that with MC?" My situation is especially complicated because I have transference (paternal and, at one point, erotic) for my MC that I eventually told my T about. She helped me find a way to tell MC, and she stayed out of it. I've confided in her stuff about the transference feelings since then, and, to my knowledge, she has never talked to MC about it.
Hope that helps!