Say more about the "attack". In what way? What would she say?

Since I have a hard time feeling connected when I can't talk, I wonder if it is that you feel less connected thinking that you are talked out.

Life keeps happening and our understanding of ourselves keeps growing even during quiet times and relatively painless times. Things like happiness and contentedness can be explored too, I guess is what I'm getting at.

I once told T that I feel like I have to have something dramatic to talk about when I see her and she told me no and reminded me that wherever you are is where you are at that moment and there is always something to talk about. That does make sense since our minds are always at work but when I feel like I don't have anything pressing then I have felt not connected and like I wasted the session.

From a psychoanalysis site:
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During the years that an analysis takes place, the patient wrestles with these insights, going over them again and again with the analyst and experiencing them in daily life, in fantasies, and in dreams.

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So possibly the 'daily life' part may be where you are?