With my first counselor 14yrs ago. I had no idea what a good skilled T was. Now I know she certainly wasnt any of that.
I quit with her because I realise now it was part of my issues.
I wanted to see if she'd 'hold' me if I suggested leaving. Plus because of her lack skills and knowledge, we were going round in circles. She hadn't undertaken the Lonnnnng training and own analyst and analysis has. So what could she do? Apart from parrot back and SMILE, she couldn't do anything. Thank gawd I can just remember this is an experience and no there was something more or there.