I am kinda with Elsa on this one, maybe if you had some or even a genuine friendship first, then you'd have that extra support for the girl issue.
You know we don't all come with the coding for social etiquette. For some of us it's as difficult to learn as a new language. Couple that with crippling social anxiety and it seems so much safer to just let things slide by than risk a humiliation that will give you nightmares for weeks, maybe months. Don't feel it's just you.
You can just start really small you know, you don't need to rush to tell someone you like them. If your passing someone regularly and they frequently catch your eye and hold contact, one day just say 'hey' and keep walking. After a couple of weeks of that try a simple nod and ' how you doin?' Just go slow. Until you work up to introducing yourself.
I can definately say from a personal perspective that no matter how much eye contact a person initiates with me if they don't speak to me I would never dare believe they are interested. So I do know where your coming from. But for now I would think in terms of finding a proper friend or two.
I really hope that you manage to broach this subject with your counsellor, maybe write it down and take it with you so you remember to bring it up at your next session.
All the best. And good luck.
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