Papa Bear and many others prove them wrong.
Their words were self-revelatory. Those words of theirs don't describe any reality beyond their utterers.
Yet their words cannot be unsaid and unheard. They hurt you. And they continue to hurt you.
Waging war against a past that is ever present is torture.
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My dog
mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.