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Old Nov 17, 2016, 09:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Mysterious153 View Post
Sometimes I think our first relationships are just sort of trials where we are trying to find the right person. Of course you are stressed out, this is all new to you. Before I married, I dated a lot of people who were very bad fits for me. You will take some of the experiences you have had with this partner and use them when you navigate future relationships. If she doesn't make you happy, move on. When I was single, I was certainly searching for an intimate partner to be in my life. Good luck with everything.
Thanks, it seems like, since I was new to relationships and wanted to take things a little slower she thought I didn't want to move forward at all, and was scared to. That still doesn't really explain the lack of talking around me though. We were talking plenty just about random things before...

I don't know. I don't know what I want. I don't know what I should want. I've been alone for so long, and it looks like I can't even get to the point where I can even accept not being alone, or that someone could love me in general.

She's left it up to me, and said we'll be okay either way, although I feel bad for putting her through all of this in the first place. Anyways, we're leaning in the direction of stepping back from the relationship aspect, and learning more about, and enjoying each other's company, as friends. I kind of feel like that's right.

There was a spark there, but it was kind of snuffed out when all of this happened. I feel like, if we return to the scenario where that spark first emerged, we may develop those feelings again. If not, then we don't

I don't know if that sounds unreasonable though...
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